London Swingers: Clubs, Socials and Parties Guide

London has one of the busiest swinging scenes in the UK. Between the clubs, the parties, the socials and the private events, there’s something on for swingers in London most nights of the week.

We’re Sean and Sophie, the couple behind SwingDesire. We’ve been to clubs, socials, events and a private house party in and around London, and this guide covers the swingers clubs, sex parties and socials worth knowing about, what we’ve experienced ourselves and what we’ve learned along the way. (If you were looking for the crazy golf bar, wrong kind of Swingers. This guide is about the lifestyle.)

London Swingers Clubs at a Glance

Always check each club’s own website for the latest nights and entry details.

The London Swinging Scene

London’s scene is spread out. Some clubs are in the city, others sit on the edges, near Heathrow or out in Surrey, where there’s room for bigger venues and easier parking. On top of the clubs, London has fetish events, party venues, organisers who run nights at different clubs, and relaxed socials in ordinary bars and pubs.

That’s the big advantage of London. You can start with a drink at a social, try a club when you’re ready, and go to bigger themed parties once you know what you enjoy. If you’re not sure where to begin, our guide to swinger socials vs swingers clubs explains the difference.

Swingers Clubs in and Around London

Our Place 4 Fun (OP4F), North London

Our Place 4 Fun is a swingers club near Alexandra Palace in North London, and it calls itself London’s friendliest. It runs party nights on Tuesdays, Fridays and Saturdays, and different nights welcome different mixes of couples, single women and single men.

Membership is free, but you need to register online and be confirmed before you can book. It’s bring your own drinks (no pre-mixed drinks), and phones are left at reception or in lockers.

We haven’t been yet, but it’s on our list. Friends of ours go regularly and rate it highly. It’s on the smaller side, but we’ve heard a lot of positives about the atmosphere and the people.

Ignite, Heathrow

Ignite is a private members club for over 21s near Heathrow Terminal 5, with a naturist spa during the day and parties in the evenings. You need to apply for membership before your first visit.

We haven’t been to Ignite ourselves, but the feedback we’ve had about the spa is good. Different events welcome different guests, so check which ones suit you before you book.

The Hellfire Club, Sunbury-on-Thames

Hellfire is a long-running lifestyle club in Sunbury-on-Thames, around 12 miles from central London, with free parking. It runs regular party nights alongside themed events, including ladies’ nights and fetish nights, and each party can have its own dress code.

Hellfire was only our second swingers club, so we were still finding our feet. Some friends invited us to a masquerade night at the last minute. It was around 5pm when they asked, which gave us roughly an hour to get ready.

We checked the club’s standard dress code, which allowed polo shirts, but missed the separate dress code for that particular event, which said no polos. That was our mistake, and we’re happy to admit it. It wasn’t handled in the best way on the night, which made an already nervy evening feel awkward for a while. To be fair, the organiser came over later and apologised, which we appreciated, and we still had a really good night.

The lesson we took away: always read the rules for the specific event you’re going to, not just the club’s general dress code.

Le Boudoir, Central London

Le Boudoir is a members-only ENM club in central London that runs regular events. You can’t join on the night. You apply online with photos and need to be approved and pre-registered before you can go, and it’s known for being selective about who it accepts.

We went to an event called Erotica, which was held at Le Boudoir, in March this year. The club itself was nice, the host was brilliant and it was a great night. Erotica no longer runs, but Le Boudoir still hosts its own events.

Sex Clubs and Sex Parties in London

Not everything in London is a traditional swingers club. These are worth knowing about, depending on what you’re into.

Torture Garden

Torture Garden is a fetish event rather than a swingers club. It started in London in 1990 and is now the world’s largest monthly fetish event. It has a strict dress code for everyone: full fetish or avant-garde outfits only, and half-hearted outfits get turned away. Quite a few people we know go and rate it, but plan your outfit properly.

House of Poitier

House of Poitier is a private adult party venue in Sutton, South London. Different hosts run events there, from daytime parties to evening swingers parties. We haven’t been, so check what each event is about before you book.

Blackmans Fanclub (BMFC)

BMFC is a long-running organiser that holds interracial-themed parties at lifestyle clubs around the South East, including Hellfire. Membership is free, and you get on the guest list for each party by contacting them first.

Private House Parties

Some of the best nights happen away from clubs altogether. We went to a private pool party at a mansion in Harrow, and it was an awesome night, and free to attend as well. Parties like this are usually by invitation, through people you’ve met in the lifestyle, which is one more reason socials and genuine connections matter.

For more parties around London and the rest of the country, see our guide to swingers events in the UK. Heading further north? Our guide to swinging in Birmingham covers the Midlands scene.

London Swingers Socials

If you’re new, a social is the easiest way in. There’s no play, just a drink and a chat with like-minded people, usually in a normal bar or pub.

In October we went to our first London social with Pineapple Club, held at a pub near London Bridge. There were around 40 people there, and it was relaxed and very friendly. It’s a reminder that the lifestyle isn’t only about clubs. Sometimes it’s just about getting out and enjoying good company.

Your First Night at a London Swingers Club

• Register before you go. Most London clubs need you to sign up or be approved in advance. Turning up on the night usually won’t work.
• Read the event rules, not just the club rules. Themed nights often have their own dress code. We learned this one the hard way.
• Check who the night is for. Some nights are couples only, some welcome singles. Pick the one that suits you.
• Know the drinks policy. Some clubs are bring your own, others have a bar. Check before you go, so there are no surprises.
• Plan your journey home. Clubs outside the centre often have parking, but late-night public transport can be limited.
• Agree your boundaries first. Talk about what you’re both comfortable with before you arrive, and remember either of you can change your mind at any time.

Our guides on your first time at a swingers club and swinger etiquette go into more detail. And if you ever feel pressured, our guide to consent and coercion in swinging explains where to get help.

How to Meet Swingers in London Safely

Like anywhere else, meeting people online in London means being mindful of fake profiles and time-wasters. A few things help:

• Chat before you meet, and meet somewhere public first, like a social or a bar.
• Look for verified profiles, so you know the person is who they say they are.
• Go to events and socials, where you can meet people in person in a relaxed setting.
• Trust your instincts. If something feels off, it probably is.

Our guide to meeting people safely in the swinger lifestyle covers this in more depth.

How SwingDesire Helps You Meet People in London

We built SwingDesire because we wanted a better way to meet genuine people in the lifestyle. Members verify with photo ID, an age check and a live selfie, and on couple profiles each partner verifies individually. You can find verified couples and singles near you, chat privately, and see clubs and events in one place. Find out more about our lifestyle community.